The Best Fire Hose Gifts and Do-It-Yourself Crafts

Post Preview: Fire hose has a shelf life. Once it’s reached it’s useful end on the Firefighting side, it gets turned into unique and memorable items, which are perfect gifts for Firefighters!

Not only is Fire Hose amazing for it’s life saving water power, but it also turns into some hot up-cycled items, many of which are perfect gifts for Firefighters.

And that’s not even the best part!

When you make crafts or purchase used fire hose gifts, you are recycling the hose and keeping it out of the landfill!

Obviously, being recycled wasn’t what fire hose was intended for- so finding specific colors is dependent on what gets retired at the time.

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The items that can be created are truly endless, from belts and wallets to bags and notebooks. Hammocks, chairs and wall art also top the list of creative firehose recyclables.

The creativity doesn’t stop there though. Decommissioned Fire Hose has been in the media lately because of its versatility and strength in keeping doors closed, should an incident occur in a school. And animal habitats have been known to use decommisioned fire hose for play toys and bedding.

Basically, Fire hose is useful from the beginning to the end of it’s life. The real question now is, do you want to DIY your fire hose master piece or purchase an up-cycled firehose piece from a talented artist?

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What’s all the hoopla with recycled fire hose?

Firefighters are a pretty handy bunch. They can also be pretty resourceful too- give them some decommissioned fire hose and you might be surprised what they will make.

I’m thinking that one of them decided to cut up some hose and make something back in the day. Of course, this would be hard to track down- I’m sure it was before the advent of the internet when some hose lover made a bench or some wall art with some old firehose. 

Fire hose is very unique though, so thats why it makes such a fun project. It’s durable, tough and comes in a variety of colors. It also makes an excellent Firefighter gift idea, especially because Firefighters love to have memorabilia.

It’s also super flexible- just imagine all the water a used hose has had to deal with. Those funny videos of firefighters losing control of their fire hose aren’t just for show- they really happen!

Personally, I think it’s a great use of resources that have failed testing or reached their limit. Much better than a landfill or them going to a third world country where they might fail in action.

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First, Where do you get used Fire Hose?

This is the million dollar question.

Pro tip- Don’t call 911 asking for fire hose…

The first logical answer is calling up your local fire department (non emergency number) and the surrounding stations within a reasonable drive. Ask them if they have any available and also offer to contribute a donation to the department. Chances are, they have some lying around.

Another great option is to look online! Amazon has some new hose, Ebay and Craigslist have used fire hose options, and there are other producers that sell wholesale and retail to the public. You should be able to find some fire hose for sale online.

It may take some hunting, but you can find some recycled fire hose for your DIY projects!

DIY SECTION 

Of course, if you are pretty handy, you could do a lot of these projects yourself. I’m a crafty and avid sewer (sewist? Whats the word when you make stuff with a sewing machine?) but I have yet to attempt playing with fire hose. 

Thankfully, there are some tutorials on how to cut and sew this stuff up! You can also use leather working material to create your design, which would require more of a hand sewn approach- looking at the videos online, it looks like it might be easier to do it hand sewn.

If I was starting out with a new fire hose project, I would probably go with a wall design, or a can holder. Those look like they would be the easiest to make!

Don’t forget about the new hose on amazon, so if you are sentimental about a roll of inch and three quarter line, you can experiment on the new roll from Amazon first. It’s always a good idea to have scrap material for the prototype.

Instructables has several project outlines for working with fire hose. They are look decently easy- working with fire hose has an element of common sense. Its tough like leather but still flexible- almost like a well loved rug.

There are some other really cool ideas that don’t involve sewing. Several options just require cutting and using something like a pin or staple to secure the hose. Others could be hanging hose, or weaving it. I have several really cool ideas saved on my Pinterest board, Fire Hose

Ideas for recycled fire hose with fire hose background

GIFT GUIDE 

Under 20 dollars

Can Coozies from BrotherhoodProducts on Etsy
Firefighter Coaster from American Fire Co

Fire Hose Coupling Pencil Holder from Axes and Hose Co

Fire Hose Wallets and Belts 

Wallets and Belts tend to be the most popular reclaimed fire hose item. If you wanted to purchase some there are several options! Many of these producers are also firefighters (double bonus!!). 

Some popular brands for wallets Recycled Firefighter and Gallo En Fuego. Etsy also has a large collection of independent makers making unique firehose wallets. Though if you want something guranteed, Recycled Firefighter has been making a name for himself in the US, particularly among the EDC crowd. I’ve never heard a bad review!

Belts seem to be easier (maybe?) to make since there are lots of options to choose from!

Ladder34 has some really cool collections to showcase their belt options, like the Hotshot collection and FDNY inspired belts. Personally I like the Attack belts, but my husband would be all over the truckie ones.

Another maker is FireHoze, which has some pretty cool standard colored fire hose belts.

Rustic Firehose has some traditional up cycled firehose belts as well… and I’d be lying if I said they were ugly. The ‘rustic red’ is right up my alley!

Recycled Fire Hose Dogs toys

Nothing screams ‘Fire Pup’ like a Fire Hose chew toy. Seriously, Fire hose makes great dog chew toys because it’s practically indestructible. These are great for aggressive chewers, we’ve tried a few different options for our puppy and the fire hose beats all the other ones hands down!

These 5 Star rated Fire Hose Chew Toys are a must have for any pup!

And dont forget about ones with squeakers! My dog is OBSESSED with squeezers!

Amazon has a great selection of dog toys to choose from for your furry friend!

Don’t forget about Etsy! They have some super cute dog collars and accessories.

Our Fire Dog with our son, sitting on the fire truck.
Our Fire Pup!

Bags and Notebooks 

These are some of my favorite items that have been made from upcycled Fire Hose. I think some of the color combinations are really stunning.  While you can find turnout gear bags everywhere, fire hose bags tend to be a little more exclusive.

On Etsy, this is listed as a Bag Truck Tarpaulin and Fire Hose ensemble made with some great 5 star reviews!

One of the most popular brands for these fire hose bags and notebooks is Recycled Firefighter. It looks like he mastered the creative part of fire hose and went to work making some cool items!

Then there are two options in Europe. FeuerWear and Elvis & Kresse. Both of them have some amazing fire hose bags and accesories (and shipping looks pretty reasonable to the US!).

Decor 

Etsy is my go to when I want to look at creative uses for Fire hose, and it does not disappoint! This is especially true for Firefighter gifts for a Fire Wall or a Firefighter Themed Man Cave.

You will find so many creative things on Etsy made from firehose, truly one of a kind pieces.

This item is both hilarious, yet useful. Male and Female Bathroom signs!

Some of my favorite firehose creations are an American Flag Fire Hose from AmericanFireCo,

The ever popular Fire Hose Bench from AxesandHoseCo

I love these absolutely original wall hangings from BrotherhoodProducts.

Conclusion 

So if you have some vintage fire hose, you’ve got two options. Chop it up yourself, or get someone else to make you a custom fire hose piece. 

If you don’t have firehose, because not many of us do, definitely consider some of these unique items available for purchase (many of these stores are owned by firefighters- double win!)

Did I inspire a new firefighter themed collection? Or did I miss your favorite firehose creation? Let me know in the comments! 

fire hose gift guide


PTSD- The basics for First Responders

It seems that PTSD is a hot topic among First Responders these days. From talking about it, to training courses and mentions in the news. But it can be hard to talk about something that you dont fully understand.

So First Responders, their spouses and their family need to get a basic understand of what PTSD is, and what it is not. Sometimes you just want a straight answer!

*** Please note- this is not medical advice, nor to I pretend to know everything about PTSD, mental health, or the education that medical professionals have. This is my personal experience with my family and the mental health professionals we have talked to over the years. I strongly encourage you to get help if you or a loved one is suffering from PTSD, suicidal thoughts, or you need help. For immediate issues, call 911.

Why do you need to Know about PTSD?

That’s the most important question- because if you don’t find this information valuable, then it won’t matter to you!

So why do you need to know about PTSD?

PTSD is something that can effect you, your family or people that you encounter as a result of a traumatic event.

You need to know about PTSD because it can have an impact on your life- either indirectly or directly. Especially if you are a first responder or connected to one.

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But you need to know that not everyone will experience PTSD

While the numbers are pretty high, not everyone experiences PTSD. Sometimes everyday stressors can seem like a lot to handle, but they aren’t impacting how you function day to day.

Other times, PTSD can sneak up on you, and you suppress it because you have too much going on. If you experience symptoms that last longer than a month it’s time to talk to a professional .

What’s the definition of PTSD

The American Psychatric Association defines PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event.

PTSD can occur in all people, in people of any ethnicity, nationality or culture, and any age.

People with PTSD have intense, disturbing thoughts and feelings related to their experience that last long after the traumatic event has ended. View the article here.

Quick Stats according to this study

-33% of EMT’s and Paramedics will experience PTSD

-Females are more likely than males to have PTSD

-Moreover, this study found that PTSD was also the strongest predictor of health-related problems— stronger than depression, anxiety or job strain.

-PTSD among these first responders is associated with biomarkers that indicate neuroendocrine changes (e.g. cortisol, blood pressure) that may contribute to disability.

Many ways that PTSD can present itself

PTSD can look like a lot of different things, and it can also look different for Firefighters, Police Officers and Dispatchers.

They can have different thoughts associated with PTSD based on what they experienced and how often it’s happened.

So lets cover some general things that PTSD can present itself as for many of the first responders.

For one, PTSD can be a result of HEARING about a trauma.

 It can also occur as a result of repeated exposure to horrible details of trauma such as police officers exposed to details of child abuse cases. (See source here)

For Two, it can take some time to present itself. This is called Delayed Onset PTSD- it’s why many believe there shouldn’t be a reporting time limit.

For three, gender does play a role. About 10 of every 100 women (or 10%) develop PTSD sometime in their lives compared with about 4 of every 100 men (or 4%). Learn more about women, trauma and PTSD.

Fourth, it can be something that is manageable, or something that becomes a severe disability. This is entirely a case by case basis that will require diagnosis to determine.

PTSD is NOT this

PTSD is not something to be ashamed about. Those with PTSD have been through a lot. It’s literally in the title- they have experienced something traumatic.

But It is not something that is just going to go away on its own either.

Having PTSD is a very real thing for many people, it can stem from childhood trauma, or a very stressful event. You can even get it from secondary sources (think 9/11- we all have some awareness of that day, some worse than others).

Many people think that having PTSD is a weakness, a flaw, and something that they should keep locked up and hidden away.

But PTSD can cause this

Those that have PTSD are at a higher risk of depression.

And being depressed can cause higher risks of Suicide.

And a large number of first responders take their life every year.

See the connection here?

The problems aren’t always concrete- those with PTSD won’t always have depression, and those with depression won’t always have PTSD.

BUT we do know that we need to be aware of the connections so we can work on preventative care, especially so that we can save our First Responder Family. You can read more about the PTSD and Depression connection.

Get some Help

I would encourage you to talk to someone- you can speak to your employment assistance program at work.

You can find resources online, most importantly Like the national suicide prevention hotline.

You should also consider talking to someone about PTSD, please check out this FREE app for managing PTSD.

Hotline for FIRE/EMS (from the website- they are 24/7 and first responders OR their family can call about issues like alcohol or drug addiction, depression, suicide prevention, stress or anxiety, critical incidents, PTSD, stress caused by financial management issues or legal problems, relationship issues, work-related concerns, or psychological issues)

First Responder Crisis Support Line

I also have a resource with many other helpful sites for Firefighter Mental Health (As well as occupational health etc)

Let’s Recap

PTSD can happen to anyone- but it does tend to compound with First Responders, and personal and work life can blend together.

You want to get help for PTSD, it doesn’t have to rule your life or the lives of your loved ones.

What Firefighter Wives need to know about PTSD

What to do when your Firefighter doesn’t want to talk about it


What to do when your Firefighter doesn’t want to talk about it

We’ve all been there. It doesnt matter if your married, dating or just friends- there are times when your firefighter has had a rough time and they don’t want to talk about it.

It’s tough.

It’s tough for them living with those thoughts and memories, and it’s tough for you, as you watch them suffer (in silence or by acting out in other ways) and you don’t know how to help.

Or maybe you are doing your best to help and you want some reassurance that you are doing the right thing.

Whatever you are feeling, just know that you aren’t alone. As we become more aware of behavioral and mental health, we begin to understand just how complex the brain really is!

Let’s take a look at a few things you can do when your Firefighter doesn’t feel like talking.

*** Please note- this is not medical advice, nor to I pretend to know everything about PTSD, mental health, or the education that medical professionals have. This is my personal experience with my family and the mental health professionals we have talked to over the years. I strongly encourage you to get help if you or a loved one is suffering from PTSD, suicidal thoughts, or you need help. For immediate issues, call 911.

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First things first, understand that it’s normal to have bad calls

It’s just a part of the job. People from all walks of emergency responders and trauma intervention will experience bad calls.

Some days will just be bad days. If one call isn’t enough to shake the strongest of people, a series of bad calls (or a larger tragic event) will bring event the top dogs to their knees.

So when we hear that our Firefighter had a bad call, we have to remember that other people experience this as well.

Which is good and bad. There is strength in numbers, but there is also a stigma around ‘being weak’. Even if the whole crew experienced the same thing, there are those that are willing to talk about it and those that aren’t.

It can be a very touchy subject at work depending on the type of culture for that Fire Station. Talk to your firefighter (hopefully ahead of time) and ask them about their experience with talking to their team mates about hard calls.

This will give you some insight into how they might process the call (if everyone ignores it, your FF might ignore it too!) and it will also tell you if you are one of the only ones your firefighter can talk to, or if they have other people that might be able to lend an ear.

Be there, even if they can’t tell you what’s wrong

This is likely the most important thing to remember. You just need to be there for them, even when they can’t talk about it. This can be a gentle touch, or just someone to watch TV with.

Try to remember that they need time to work through what they have experienced and it can be difficult to come to terms with what they have seen (and everything else they may be questioning at that point!)

It’s not you, it’s them

What else can you do?

You can contact someone, especially if things get serious. You can take care of yourself and learn how to love and care for yourself (fill your cup, so you can help them fill theirs).

You can learn more about the basic of PTSD for Firefighter wives and you can also learn how to help Firefighters cope with trauma.

Most importantly, you can help to break the stigma around what Firefighters, Police Officers, Military and other first responders experience- both on and off the job.

They see some really heavy stuff, and the world takes them for granted.

Learn the Triggers

You have so many resources available for you to learn more about PTSD, depression and suicide in first responders. Please don’t hesitate to reach out. Here’s some great places to start.

Mental Health Resources for Firefighters

The Basics of PTSD for First Responders

What Firefighter Wives need to know about PTSD

What Else Can you Do?

If you feel that you or your FireFighter needs help, reach out. There are so many resources available, both at your station, in your community and online.

The Statitics are there- Firefighters are taking their lives at numbers that, quite frankly, are too damn high.

While you can’t force your Firefighter to talk about it, you can be there and do what you can (while still filling your cup) so that you can help them in their time of need. Sometimes that means they will retire early, sometimes it means they need to get counseling.

At the end of the day, we hope that they know how valuable they are to their family, and that they can get through this!

5 ways to be a Better Father and Firefighter

Being a firefighter can be hard at times. Just like it’s hard to be a Dad at times.

You’ve got all these thoughts running through your head and sometimes it’s really hard to turn it off.

A lot of times you’re at work worried about the kids and sometimes you’re with the kids and can’t help but to think about work.

Let’s face it the job takes it’s mental toll.

I know for me, especially after I’ve had a hard shift, I just come home and I hold my kids and wonder am I doing everything I can to make sure I don’t f*ck them up? Are they bothered by me leaving for 24 hours every 3rd day?

It’s hard because we see the worst as firefighters.

We see the chronically ill kids, we see the bad accidents, we see the kids that are abused.

It really does have a lasting effect on us, wether we believe it or not.

It has us questioning our role as fathers and if we are doing a good job.

So how can we be better fathers and firefighters? 

Step one- Be Fully Present

This can mean a lot of things, from putting down your phone to getting those thoughts out of your head.

You can’t enjoy your kids if you’re constantly thinking about something else, or trying to escape reality through social media.

Give yourself a few minutes before you walk inside and just breath and calm your mind. Or sneak away to the bathroom for a breather. It really helps to have a place to get your mind right when it starts to slip

Remember you need to change gears from firefighter to dad. (and then back again!)

If you are fully present, it will help with both sides of the coin. It will allow you to sleep better at night knowing that you involved your kids, and it will help you when you are at the station, wondering if they are better off without you (they aren’t, they need you so much more than you realize).

Step two-set up some legacy things

At best these will be items that you can share with your kids when they are older, at worst they are items that will be shared with your kids when you’re gone.

Make them happy you’re a fighter, but proud that you’re their dad.

This also means making sure that you have life insurance (and a good amount!) in place. It’s hell on your family if you pass away and leave them with only enough for a year or two.

Get some large 15 year term policies while the kids are still at home to make things easier if the unthinkable happens.

I took the kids the other day to get a firefighter bear at build a bear that has my voice recording. Yes, it helps for the days that I’m away, but I know it will mean more if I’m gone.

We simply can’t think we are invincible. That’s how we hurt our families the most.

BE A MAN AND MAKE A PLAN!

It’s ok firefighter bear, I totally feel like that with my helmet on too.

Step three- set up special daddy and me time

Well this may seem like a no brainer, between working and volunteering and life, the kids aren’t always put first.

It’s simply not possible.

After all we have to work so that we can take care of them.

And what do we even do with them? I asked my wife enough times she finally gave me a list of things to do.

But something that we can do and we need to do more of is setting up special times and events just for daddy just for you and the kids. Sometimes simply letting them help you with a project around the house is all they want and need.

(Here’s my secret list- get food, go play! It’s simple. Normally we do chickfila and the park, or the bounce house, or the water park. When they are older we are going to hit the trails)

Step four-prioritize your self care

Why should you prioritize self-care when you should be spending what precious little time you have free with your kids?

Here’s the secret, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of your kids.

If you’re stressed out and yelling at the kids ( because we’ve all been there and done that.) You simply won’t be the best that you can be.

I assure you that you cannot fill from an empty cup and if you are not taking care of yourself… your cup is empty.

I had to learn this the hard way (and maybe you did too) but lets not be knuckle heads. Firefighters are dealing with rates of burnout and suicide (and grumpy ole men who won’t retire) at rate that are WAY too high.

If you’re an ass at the station, you’re probably a grump at home. Take care of yourself.

Step five-keep all things in perspective

It may seem like a really big deal to you now, but it probably isn’t.

What I mean by that is, your kids being with you is a relatively short period of your life.

If you live to be 70, 18 years doesn’t seem that long.

And if you really think about it kids are only really interested in you for the first 10 years or so. Then they go through that rough adolescent stage, then they become adults and your friend.

So when you’re in the trenches of parenthood wondering if you’re screwing everything up just remember that this is a very short period of time. And somethings that you want to do without your kids could possibly wait until they are older.

This doesn’t contradict self-care as you still need that to be fully functioning, this just means that you shouldn’t work six days out of the week while your kids are itty- bitty and then wonder where the time has gone. 

I hope this helps you become the firefighter and father you are meant to be

Life has a funny way of working out. I never thought I would love being a father as much as I do, nor did I know that Firefighting was my calling. But that’s the way it works.

Trust the process. And don’t take your kids, your wife, your life, or your crewmates for granted.

Let me know some of the ways you make the fire life work with your dad responsibilities.

10 quick instapot dinners for shift night

Lots of first responders and blue collar workers get placed on shift work. And while I love having my firefighter home for 48 hours after he works 24, those 24 hours that he works need all the help they can get!

Cue the easy instapot meals!

These instapot meals are great for the family that is at home during shift time, and the second family at work. I hope you find something that you love and becomes a new family favorite!

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Why I love my instapot

I won’t lie, I’ve had my instapot almost 4 years now, and I use it almost everyday.

It is the perfect rice cooker, the best mashed potatoes maker, and I can throw meat in the pot without worrying about burning it (plus it turns out tender, juicy and full of flavor!). plus, I can make yogurt and bread with a few additional accesories!

With my husband gone on shift and 3 kids at home, the instapot is our saving grace for a yummy meal without sacrificing time to stand in the kitchen and mind the stove!

The instapot is the perfect addition to the work kitchen

Modern pressure cookers are amazing, especially when you dont have a lot of time! That is why all work kitchen should have a version of the instapot.

They can whip up yummy meals in under half an hour and not have to stand in the kitchen to make it!

And while I don’t advertise that you should leave the instapot unattended- if you did forget because you had a call in the middle of making dinner, chances are that it would not catch fire due to modern safety features. Which is a big plus, because people set their kitchens on fire all the time!

There are a few brands and they all work really similarly- but I love my instapot!

10 Quick and Easy Instapot dinners for Shift Night

Shift night means different things for different people- but one thing is for sure, easy dinners are much needed on shift nights! Here are 10 quick and easy Instapot meals.

Instant Pot Pepper Beef

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Craving some yummy Chinese food for dinner? Don't get take out, make this quick pepper beef instead! It whips up in 35 minutes from fridge to table.

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Easy Instant Pot Mac and Cheese Idea – Creamy – Tasty – Homemade – Simple Comfort Food – Quick Dinner Family – Kids

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Mac and Cheese is a delicious comfort food that everyone loves. Enjoy this spin on a simple classic that is quick and easy to make- without worrying about overbooking the noodles or burning the cheese!

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Instant Pot Chicken Thighs with Teriyaki Sauce Recipe & Review

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Chicken is a staple in our house, but sometimes it takes too long to cook!

This recipe boasts a ridiculously fast meal- total time to make these yummy chicken thighs is under 20 minutes! The recipe also comes with allergy modifications so everyone can be included.

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Instant Pot Cheesy Chipotle Pasta (Gluten-Free)

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yum!

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30-Minute Loaded Baked Potato Soup Is Creamy Comfort in a Bowl

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There's nothing like a savory meal after a long day. Which is exactly what this loaded potato soup is for. Enjoy this as a main dish or a scrumptious side. Easy to make and delicious to eat!

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Dump and Start Instant Pot Mexican Quinoa + Tutorial {Vegan, Gluten Free}

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Quick, easy and full of flavor this hispanic inspired dish is a great meal to throw in the instapot.

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Pressure Cooker Ham with Just 3 Ingredients!

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Dreaming of an easy holiday ham? Look no further than this pressure cooker ham recipe. This is a must have recipe for holidays- especially those extra busy ones that fall on shift days.

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Instant Pot Chicken Alfredo Pasta

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Another spin on an easy classic, chicken alfredo in the instapot is great for a quick dinner meal. This comfort food is a wonderful meal that everyone in the family (or on your shift!) will love.

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Instant Pot Kielbasa, Mushroom and Potato Soup

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Easy to cook and ready in a flash, you will think you've been cooking this all day long. This hearty meal is great for those 'meat and potatoes' people who want something filling at the end of the day.

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Instant Pot Olive Garden Low Carb Italian Chicken

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Not only is this a quick and easy meal, but it's wonderful as a freezer meal to prepare ahead of time and dump into the instapot when you are ready to eat!

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Firefighter Couple Relationship Problems ( 7 common issues)

Let’s face it, every relationship has it’s ups and downs.

But:

Some of these problems are caused by external factors- like jobs, and probably wouldn’t be that big of an issue if they weren’t in that career. This is especially true for firefighters (both paid and volunteer) as their job impacts their relationship.

I point these out, not to scare people, or discourage a relationship, but to highlight the truth of the matter. No relationship is perfect, and being in the fire life can add some addition stress to a relationship.

So let’s look at these problems with an open mind, and hopefully find a solution (at least get honest!) about these problems!

What are the relationship problems that Firefighter couples face?

Let’s look at 7 common issues with Firefighters, and how we can combat them to make it work in the Fire Life.

Issues with Time Management

One of the big factors in a relationship is that each of the people pull their own weight. This is in every part of the relationship, from the communication to the sex to the budget.

But what if your partner doesn’t make time or really sucks at time management, and then things get put to the side because theirs no time left?

Yeah, it definitely puts a ding in the relationship.

This is especially true because many firefighters work odd hours, or two jobs. And don’t even get me started on a volunteer firefighters schedule! It can look CRAZY!

So many of these issues feel like a bigger deal than they are- but what it often boils down to, is that one or both of the pair have some serious issues with making the relationship a priority. It’s likely that many other areas of their life suffer from poor time management as well (late bills, high stress from lack of self care, house is a mess etc).

I do have a post on time management– but it won’t work unless you get honest about it!

Not understanding the fire life (the obsession is real)

Even some seasoned wives who’ve been in this for a long time will agree, it’s hard to truly grasp the fire life.

Some days I just look at my husband and think, how can he be this obsessed.

Thankfully, I really enjoy his career (I mean I blog about it!) and I love him, so I do my best to really get in his head and see it through his eyes. But not everyone is like that, not every one can be like that. It’s nice to have some things that are different about your relationship and personality.

BUT

When the obsession for the Fire life takes over- it can leave the relationship hurt.

It can also cause the opposite effect, where the other person begins to hate the love the firefighter has for his career. It is truly a double edged sword.

So think about it, can your firefighter turn off his notifications? Take a vacation? Not talk about the fire life for 24 hours?

Does it bother you when your firefighter CAN’T stop talking about firefighter stuff?

Lack of time off

Not many people understand this one. I KNOW that there are many many hardworking Americans in every profession, but there is something about first responders and military that makes it harder to take time off.

I mean, my husband was debating on if he should only do 4 weeks of paternity leave because the “guys will need him back”.

And we had to have an honest conversation about how I needed him, and the kids needed him, and he agreed.

But

Not all firefighters understand that. Or have had that explained to them. This is really true when the firefighters were doing their firefighter thing long before they had a girlfriend/fiance/wife.

Sometimes its the lack of time off because they are short staffed, other times it’s because they feel they can’t get away. Regardless- it has an effect on their relationship. and sometimes that isn’t always a good thing!

You have to accommodate for a Second Family

This certainly isn’t always the case, but in many departments it truly is a family.

Which is great. I love the firefighters my husband calls his family, I know they have his back when they are in the field, and they treat me like family too.

Then why am I sometimes jealous of their bromance?

It does seem kind of silly, but it’s also completely honest. Sometimes I resent that my husband has a second family because it means that he will never be 100% loyal to me. I know that if they needed help, or there was a mass casualty or there was a natural disaster- He would WANT and feel compelled to be there.

This is problem on my end, but a problem none the less because I will be angry or frustrated at him for being a loyal and dedicated worker to his people.

It’s one of those situations where you would check to see why you’re really angry or upset. Is it because he was gone for three hours to help out OR is it because you don’t feel like a priority anymore?

Dealing with PTSD and mental health

Let’s chat about PTSD really quick.

They estimate that the majority of firefighters will have PTSD at least once in their career- so it can be safe to assume that if you are in a long term relationship with a firefighter, at least one event will have some repercussions.

Then we consider that over half of Americans deal with depression or anxiety.

Those stats just made it really hard for a couple to have a “normal” life together.

Why? Because many people still view mental illness or PTSD as a weakness, and not something to get help for. When in reality their are many many things that can help, both big and small, for mental health.

If you are both feeling good, it is so much easier to have a relationship- but when things are hard mentally, or one of you is struggling with a battle in your head, it makes things so much harder!

Get honest with your partner about any hang ups you may have. If you can’t trust them, then who can you trust?

Spend more time away than together

Every relationship has “gaps” of time where the other partner is gone. As a firefighter, or a firefighter partner, you can guarantee that their will be gaps with a traditional work schedule.

But the special stuff tends to come up too. Forest Fires and other natural disasters can call Firefighters away from home for weeks or months at a time. Special events or schooling, conferences, classes for degrees or promotions can all lead to an excessive amount of time away from each other.

I know that when my husband was in medic school, and gone 6 days out of the week for most of the year and several months he only had two off days, about broke me. And if I was broken there would be no relationship.

Even just a traditional relationship, where both partners work, doesn’t allow for lots of time together. I do have some helpful text suggestions to send your Firefighter while their on shift here!

Think about the wife working Monday thru Friday and then the firefighter working 24/48. That leaves maybe one full day a week and then some nights to catch up.

That’s simply not enough time to even invest in the relationship, and it is a pitfall you need to watch for so that you don’t grow apart.

Not having enough money

This isn’t meant to feel cliche- it’s the truth.

Consider two scenarios:

The typical rookie firefighter who isn’t making enough to support his family. (feelings of inadequacy, feeling like a failure, having to get a second or third job)

The volunteer firefighter who feels guilty about volunteering when he should have a second job to support his family. He knows the value of volunteering, but he also feels bad his main job doesn’t make enough (or his volunteering gets in the way of a bigger paycheck because he always leaves to take calls).

Those scenarios are not made up- they’re lived by firefighters all over. And not having enough money will always have an impact on a relationship due to stress, trust, health issues etc. When 80% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck, it can be stressful just to take a day off- even if it’s for being sick!

Consider what you can do to get honest about your money problems, get a budget and work on a plan to get to a better place financially.

Final Thoughts

Did any of these problems stand out to you in your relationship?

These are all common issues that have been highlighted to me through my personal life, as well as talking to other couples that are in the Firefighter Circle.

Comment below if you have any thoughts, or better yet, helpful advice, for others in this fun and sometimes ridiculous Fire Life!

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7 Must Watch Firefighter TED talks

Firefighter TED talks

Everyone needs some encouragement (or a good kick in the ass) every now and then- and Firefighters are no different!

TED talks provide a great way for people to get the inspiration they need- in an easy to swallow video format.

Check out these TED talks for firefighters and why we think you’ll want to watch these!

Must watch Firefighter Ted Talks

Matthew O’Reilly- Am I dying?

In this short, but important, TED talk, O’reilly covers that all important question that firefighters get asked.

“Am I dying?”

His take on the question, and how he has lived it with the patients he has treated is a fresh take on a very sensitive topic. This is great for new and seasoned First Responders- but should be a must watch for anyone considering the field.

You can check out the accompanying article here.

Jan Rader- In the Opioid Crisis, Here’s what it takes to save a life.

Jan Rader is a Fire Chief, and her honesty about the severity of the opioid crisis is an important reminder.

Firefighters aren’t just there for fires, they run medical calls- and many of those calls could be preventable.

Rader presents a story of hope, and how her band of first responders are changing the conditions in their community for the better.

Shelli Rae Varela- Hacking Possibility

In this Motivational Speech, Varela covers how she went from someone who never considered firefighting, to “hacking” her way into her dream career.

A great reminder for those that have been on the job for a while, but a must watch for anyone who has less than a few years- it gives you the perspective you need to appreciate how great this job really is!

Timothy Brown- Ordinary People, Extraordinary Heroes

The events surrounding 9/11 have effected us all- even if we don’t realize it.

In this true story of a firefighter who was there on 9/11, we hear the gripping testimony of a man, a firefighter, who lived through one of the worst events in our lifetime.

Ben Thompson- You can be the hero someone needs

Thompson gets really honest about something we all experience as Firefighters- abuse of the 911 system.

He talks about how it changed him and what he did in his community to lessen the burden of those who depend on EMS for non emergencies. This is an important watch for those that need help with their communities.

Anthony Guerne- The Effects of the Suck it up Culture- PTSD in EMS

A Paramedic and Volunteer Firefighter, Guerne talks about how PTSD has effected him. The “ambulance Driver” who is talking out the trauma that he has experienced and how the culture doesn’t help with what they’ve lived.

Stewart McMillian- Lessons learned by Becoming a Leader by Circumstance

Stewart McMillian talks honestly about life in the early stages of firefighting.

From his father who was a Chief, to their company they developed, Stewart addresses how he was thrust into a leadership role he wasn’t quite prepared to take.

Conclusion

As we move into more video formats, TED talks and the like will be very important for Firefighters to learn from others.

Do you have a favorite video that you use for inspiration or maybe to help fellow firefighters? Let me know in the comments below!

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Ideas and Items for a Firefighter Photo Shoot

We all love pictures, especially today with our sophisticated smart phones and especially with firefighters (seen instagram lately?)

From single shoots, to couple engagements and then family photos- there’s so many great ideas and cool options for pictures! Then add in maternity pictures, wedding pictures and special events- there’s no limit to the amount of photo ideas.

So let’s look at some of the favorite ideas all in one place with some helpful suggestions.

This article may contain affiliate links at no additional cost to you, read the disclosure here.

Before we begin

Obviously a Firefighter photoshoot of some sort isn’t complete without bunker gear or some other fire related uniform.

Let’s just keep in mind that gear is covered in carcinogens that have been linked to high levels of occupational cancer.

Think twice before you use gear that might not have been properly cleaned! Ask your firefighter to do a thorough decon of all gear that will be in contact with children or newborns.

When the station got brand new gear, we took advantage of it for some fun kid friendly photos!

Quick Items and Ideas for a Firefighter or Thin Red Line Themed Photoshoot!

Thin Red Line Flag– Flags are such a classic way to spice up a shoot! Use them for backdrops or for a newborn shoot.

American Flag– Obviously, this can’t be placed on the ground, but it can be used as a backdrop or drape. Most Departments have a really big flag too- ask to see if you can borrow it for a photo session at the station!

Firetruck- this one is a no brainer, but some departments do have some strict rules about pictures. You can always talk to the county or see if their are some “junk” trucks that have been bought by a local company to use!

Animals– what’s cuter than a doggo and a firetruck? throw in a cute kid and it’s a great photo!

Ax, Halligan, Fire Hose, helmets- These Classic tools of the trade are great (albeit a little dangerous for kids) photo props since your firefighter uses them all the time.

Smoke Props and Smoke Bombs– Looking for a really cool and dramatic effect for your pictures? Pick up some fake smoke for a cool fire themed backdrop. These are especially fun for couples and kids to play with!

Cute kids props– Of course, you can use what you have on hand! I know most of the Fire Families have more than their share of firetrucks and outfits laying around. If you dont, there are plenty on amazon!

Firefighter themed clothing and t-shirts– We know that you have a ton of tshirts as a firefighter family, it comes with the territory! Put those shirts and clothing to good use with a few outfit changes during your photoshoot. Or better yet, turn some of them into a quilt!

Props for Special Occasions (graduation, retirement, newborns)

Special occasions call for special pictures! Are you celebrating a life event? There are some really cool props for those that are!

For newborns, I absolutely love having a cloth diaper cover– these are different from bloomers made many years ago.

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Also consider getting a custom plaque or shadow box made for the occasion. You could even give it as a gift during the photoshoot and get some reaction shots!

Looking for some more ideas?

I have several Pinterest boards with photography ideas! Check them out!

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Conclusion

Did you see anything that you are going to use for your next photoshoot? Have some pictures you would like to see featured? Let me know in the comments below or send me an email!

Four Actionable Steps to Achieve Work Life Balance for Firefighters

We have a lot of stuff to do in this life and we don’t have a lot of time to do it. Between Work and Play- and then every day life, time seems to slip through our fingers!

But if you think about it, it really depends on the person, because many people nowadays are looking for how they can maximize their time. 

Specifically, they want to make the most of what they have to do with what they want to do. 

Picture this:

Do people want to spend their life working away, not taking anytime off, saving up every dime for retirement (which just means paying lots of medical bills) so they can have a trip to see the grandkids once a year?

Find out how to avoid this by mastering the art of work life balance! 

Why Work Life Balance is Important 

There’s this magical term called “work life balance”. People love their jobs, but they also want to enjoy themselves. Too many horror stories have trickled down the ranks of people dedicating their life to a position, only to be fired when they were no longer wanted by the company. 

Then there’s a dirty word: STRESS. Yep, I said it. Stress is going to happen, but too much is a bad thing.

Firefighters aren’t immune to it either, in fact it could be a contributing factor in the high amounts of heart related diseases. Firefighters have some of the highest statistics when it comes to heart related death. Do yourself a favor and give your heart a rest! 

So how can we avoid this mess of missing out and working ourselves to death? It’s actually a pretty simple answer – master the work life balance. 

With work life balance, we can look at and manage the important parts of our job with enjoying our family.

We can ‘make everyone happy’ in a sense that we know what we can contribute and when.

Practicing work life balance doesn’t have to be hard either, all we need to do is take a honest look at our lives, and make some simple changes in our time management and priorities. 

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4 actionable steps to achieving work life balance for firefighters 

Firefighter Work Life Balance is Important- Do you know how to achieve it?

One- Respect your time- (eliminate what isn’t important)

One of the big keys to work life balance is removing what isn’t necessary. Obviously you have to work, so those hours are accounted for. Another big one is making sure you have food and that you eat it. Of course you need to be spending time with family and friends. 

So ask yourself, what are you doing, say, on a weekly basis, that is robbing you of your time?

Do you spend your off days watching TV with your spouse, but then still feel like you haven’t had any quality time with them? Do you sit on the phone at the dinner table, and then you look up and realize that your child is a teenager? 

We only have 24 hours in the day. If we don’t respect that time and use it wisely, we can never get it back. This doesn’t mean you need to chuck your TV out the window- it just means that if your spending two hours after every shift “hanging out” at the station instead of enjoying family time- then the respect isn’t there. 

Two- Enjoy your time off- (Don’t be afraid to go on vacation)

Any one know a Firefighter that has a hard time taking time off? All of you? Yeah, me too. 

Don’t get me wrong, My husband is excited for vacations, it’s just that putting in the time off two months in advance (when we’re too far out to be really excited about the trip) that gets him. He also tends to stress about his coworkers- who will cover the shift, who else is going on vacation, should he do swaps instead, will he miss training or (the worst) will he miss a fire. 

Basically, Most Firefighters get a severe case of FOMO.

FOMO = Fear of Missing out

But

Firefighters really shouldn’t have FOMO.

Wether you are going on a trip or having a staycation, taking time off to recharge is important! 

For my Husband the FOMO about a fire is a very real, and I’m sure many others in the fire profession can relate. The thing is, there will be another fire, there will be more cool calls, and there will be more adventures. Don’t let the fear of missing out on the job cause you to miss out with your family.

Three- Balance- (Find out what your priorities are)

Ahh balance. Of course there is ‘balance’ in work life balance. But what does that mean? Images of kids on balance beams come to mind, and a waiter who has a teetering tray full of plates. But is that what balance really is? 

Balance has much more to do with setting prioritizes and then arranging them seamless, than piling as much as you can onto a plate and hoping that you don’t run into anyone in the restaurant.

When you balance, you know what has to come first, second and third- with some emergency exceptions.

For example, within your job as a firefighter- who know that structure fires take precedence over a car accident. There is an emergency exemption though, a structure fire on an unoccupied dwelling wouldn’t take precedence over a multiple vehicle pile up on the freeway.

Yes, you would delegate resources to the fire, but life is more important so you would send the majority of your resources to the vehicle accident.

That is balance, knowing what is important, and knowing the emergency exemptions that would change what you delegate time too. 

So in order to apply balance, you need to determine what your top three priorities are, and the emergency exemptions.

I can’t tell you what your priorities are especially since these change as life changes.

Some things will move up and down the list but its important to make sure that you stay honest about what you make a priority.  It would also be helpful if you communicated these to your immediate family and your coworkers.

One last note, Even though it is the best job in the world, it is still a job. That’s why my husband always says, “First Family First”.

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Four- Take time for yourself- (no matter what )

Self care is important. 

Say it with me. 

Self care is important. 

If you are laid out, sick and stressed and down right tired- you are not balancing anything because you can’t!!!! 

Now, I’m not one to place blame on a sick person, shit happens. What you can do is try your best to avoid getting sick or injured, and you do that by taking care of your physical and mental health. This means taking time to rejuvenate.

The most basic of these include eating, sleeping, exercising and keeping your sanity. 

I know this sounds amazingly basic BUT we’ve all had times in our lives where we put ourselves second, or third… you know its happened.

You’re ‘too busy to eat’. Bullshit. If you don’t eat and take care of yourself, your disrupting the natural flow of man. Do yourself a favor, keep your body and mind healthy so you can do be there for others.

We know that Firefighter stress and PTSD is robbing us of our Fire Family. Please- Don’t be another statistic.

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4 steps for Firefighter Work Life Balance

To Recap

1.Respect your time- don’t waste it

2. Enjoy your time off- no more FOMO when it comes to fires or calls that you might miss

3. Balance your priorities- make them known

4. Take care of yourself- stay mentally and physically fit 

With these simple truths in your life, you can master work life balance. You can enjoy your time at work and enjoy your time at home. 

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Turnout Gear Gift Guide- Recycled and New Products

Turnout Gear Gift Guide

Turnout gear is the ultimate symbol of the firefighter- maybe it ties with a fire helmet, but many pictures feature the classic bunker pant overalls as the main giveaway that someone is a firefighter.

I’m not going to address that used firefighter can contain carcinogens that could lead to cancer (Firefighter occupational cancer is WAY too high right now!) So use your best judgment when ordering used turnout gear items. There are plenty of new items available if that’s what you’d like instead!

As always, I’m open to hear about what other items I should add. If you have a favorite please let me know!

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Turnout and Bunker Gear Gifts

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Christmas ornaments are always a timeless gift- you don’t have to know their size, their favorite color- heck, they don’t even have to celebrate Christmas. This could easily be a wall decoration, hang from a car rear view mirror or go inside a locker! It’s also available in black bunker gear as well.

Personalized Bunker Gear Items

Fully Involved stitching has a full line of personalized items available on Amazon! Some of my favorites are the blankets, pillow cases and aprons. You can find them here!

Bags and Wallets

This wallet, sold by Flashfire supply, boast all 5 star reviews on Amazon. Made with new material that is the same Kevlar type material that turnout gear is made from, you can expect the smell and waterproofness that comes with traditional turnout gear fabric. Available in a variety of colors and reasonably priced, this wallet is a favorite for many. Check it out on amazon here!

Another Great Option is a Turnout Inspired Toiletry Bag. This is a great personalized gift for any Firefighter- because we all know they struggle with keeping all their personal bath items in one place. Made by the Fire Family Store, the material is all new, and ready to ship!

Looking for something a little more Feminine? Check out these adorable Firefighter Turnout Bag Purses from DoctorLar! Bonus- they can even make one from turnout gear that you send in!

Is a messenger bag more your style? No worries, that comes in turnout gear colors too! There’s several of these bags to choose from on Etsy, but this one below is my favorite! It’s an authentic, decommissioned, Turnout gear messenger bag made by The401Fireman.

Cups

Cups are always a super popular (and kinda default) gift to get!

Coined the #bunkercup this design by CavellaDesigns is super popular with great reviews!

Another great option for cups are these designs by KDclosetshop. They also offer this with the basic stripe, without the Maltese cross.

I mean, who can say no to glitter turnout tumblers! These are so cute, especially if you want to have a feminine cup without the thin red line colors!

For the kids

I am little cautious when it comes to turnout gear and kiddos- yes, my kids are exposed regularly to their father’s gear, so I just try to minimize their non essential exposure. All of these items will be NEW.

Fire Family Store has these super cute toddler turnout gear outfits! They are personalized and come with everything shown.

While theirs nothing wrong with girls wearing a full turnout gear ensemble, their is something so adorable about a little turnout gear skirt! Check these out from Fully Involved Stitching.

For the Pups

Firefighters LOVE Animals- and puppy dogs are no exception. These adorable Turnout Gear Inspired Collars are cute for anyone’s dog- wether they are a firefighter or not! Especially, because these are reflective. Cute and Safe!

If your feeling adventurous, you can even get the collars customized! This one on Etsy is a bestseller– you can’t go wrong with a turnout gear dog collar!

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Conclusion

I had so much fun putting together this bunker gear gift guide! Did you find something you couldn’t live without? Let me know in the comments! And if I missed something, let me know!

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